Ek het iets gedoen wat ek nie moes nie. Ek het die man wat veronderstel is om my pa te wees genooi vir middagete â terwyl hy by sy nuwe familie kuier. Ek het hom hierdie kans gegee omdat ek gedink het, miskien â net miskien â het hy al besef dat eie familie dalk meer beteken as ander mense.
Wil jy 12 uur iets gaan eet? Ek sal jou optel. Stel nie belang om in te kom of een van hulle saam te vat.
Sy reaksie?
Ek kan nie â die kleinseun van haar* wil Pretoria toe gaan om sy sussie te gaan haal Dit sou lekker gewees het om te kon uitgaan Ek sit net hier in die son
*(die ding van Delmas)
Ek het die boodskap gelees. En ek het dit nie net gelees nie â ek het dit verstaan.
Wat ek hoor, is nie lekker om te hoor nie, want dis net nog ân klap. In plaas van om iets te sĂȘ soos âwat van more of oormoreâ gaan dit oor ander mense se planne. Die ander mense wat hy bo sy eie kind en kleinkinders gekies het.
Ek het al geleer om nie te veel van hom te verwag nie. Ek het my hand uitgesteek. Ek het die moeite gedoen. En nou is ek klaar.
March was hectic. I celebrated 22 days of birthdayâbecause why not? My birthday kicks off on 1 March and runs until the actual day. I treated myself a bit, got the kids to say “Happy Birthday” each day, went on a cruise, and made it to Loftus.
The MSC 5-day cruise video still needs editing, but hereâs the short version. We booked the cheapest cabin with a windowâjust enough space for the four of us (as we only sleep in the room). The kids slept on beds attached to the walls, which worked fine. They loved the window, sitting on the shelf and watching the ocean. Entertainment was solid, except for the stand-up comedian (not my thing, so not his fault). Food was decentânothing fancy, but you canât expect five-star dining when feeding over a thousand people at once. The buffet was handy for snacks, but queuing with kids was a nightmare. Some people were so desperate to get their over-filled helping that they had no problem pushing kids out of the way. Also, standing in line with strangers practically leaning on me? Not a fan. The same chaos happened when disembarking at Portuguese Islandâone woman tried to shove past my kids on the stairs. She got an earful.
The Blue Bulls vs. Leinster game at Loftus was great. A stadium full of people loudly disagreeing with the ref? Quality entertainment. The kids had a blast.
Oh, and my sister and I got another ear piercing. Almost overpaid at a popular jewellery shop (R1,000 for two persons), but she caught the total just in time. Quick detour to Dischem, and we got it done for just over R500. Much better. Four piercings on each ear feels no different than 3.
Sip on bubbly and enjoy tapas and sweet treats as you create your own custom lipstick in the color of your choice. Itâs a fun experience to mix your own lipstick colour.
Join us at Ouma Isieâs Tea Garden and Restaurant in Centurion for a fun lipstick-making workshop from 10:00 to 12:00. Craft your very own custom lipstick shade. Whether you bring a friend or come solo, youâre guaranteed to have a blast.
I will also be in Ohrigstad with my Lipstick-making Workshop as part of the local primary schoolâs fundraising efforts in August. Keep an eye on the schoolâs Facebook page for announcements if you live in the area.
I am also finalising details for a lipstick workshop in Middelburg, Mpumalanga.
Planning an event or celebration at a Goddess Cafe? You can now book our lipstick workshops through the Goddess Cafe Events Team, click here.
Revlon Sale Dates
The question I get asked most is WHEN IS THIS SALE⊠so, here is the answer to that question đ
I feel like Iâve accomplished so much in January. Maybe it is because my December was an absolute **** show for me. (Iâm still not laughing about it.)
Then Iâm back at the workshop thing, new partners and all. (Long story and I donât want to talk about it ever.) The first LipLab lipstick workshop for 2025 is in Polokwane with 2 Johannesburg workshops already scheduled. In case you were wondering, yes, we do bring the fun to private parties or work functions.
Iâm always on the hunt for Barbie things for myself and the kids – and Disney for the kids. (Whilst I can wear the 15 to 16 year size T-shirt, I do prefer little looser cuts.) Pep has been on fire since last year for both Barbie and Disney. Ackermans brings in the most new rangers consistently. Jet, (and Bash) has the most amazing Barbie and Stitch. Mr Price sometimes have great stuff.
Then, just in case you are looking for gifts this early in the year, The Whimsical Whippet added a few good markdowns on their sale.
Mattel, Inc. (NASDAQ: MAT) announced that a team of neuroscientists at Cardiff University and Barbie have released the latest findings from a multi-year study exploring the short and long-term developmental impacts of doll play. In the studyâs third year, researchers have found that doll play could benefit children with varying social communication styles, including those who display neurodivergent traits commonly associated with autism.
To obtain these new findings, the research team, led by neuroscientist Dr. Sarah Gerson from Cardiff Universityâs School of Psychologyâs Centre for Human Developmental Science, replicated earlier brain-related discoveries from the previous two years and expanded the studyâs scope by incorporating a more diverse range of participants*, including children ages 4â8 who display both high and low levels of traits commonly associated with autism.
Collaborating with Dr. Catherine Jones, Director of the Wales Autism Research Centre at Cardiff University, this data further backs the conclusions drawn in the first year, demonstrating that playing with dolls either alone or in a group, can support social processing among children. The results from the third year reinforce this finding across children with and without high levels of autistic traits, albeit through their different approaches to play.
âOur study shows that doll play can encourage social processing in children, regardless of their neurodevelopmental profile. The findings show that all children, even those who display neurodivergent traits commonly associated with autism, may use doll play as a tool for practicing social scenarios and developing social skills, such as empathy,â said lead researcher and neuroscientist Dr. Sarah Gerson.
The team of neuroscientists used state-of-the-art functional, near-infrared spectroscopy equipment to explore brain activation while children played with dolls and on tablets, both by themselves and with another person, replicating conditions from Year 1.
While observing children, researchers saw increased brain activity in the posterior superior temporal sulcus (pSTS) region when playing with dolls, for both play with a social partner and during solo doll play, but less so during solo tablet play. The pSTS region is heavily involved in and active during social and emotional processing. The findings showed that doll play activates brain regions associated with social information processing such as empathy, indicating that doll play may enable children to rehearse, use and perform these skills even when playing independently. Interestingly, this effect in the brain was similar between children displaying fewer and greater traits commonly associated with autism.
The study’s results suggest that doll play could support social processing, regardless of a childâs neurodevelopmental profile, but through different pathways. For children displaying fewer autistic traits, talking about others’ mental states related to pSTS activity (i.e., language about othersâ thoughts and emotions when playing alone with dolls). In contrast, for those displaying more autistic traits, talking with others during doll play was related to pSTS activity, even when playing by themselves (i.e., general social engagement with researchers/experimenters rather than a specific type of talking about mental states).
The Year 3 findings from Cardiff University indicate that children, regardless of their neurodevelopmental profile, can play with and potentially benefit from play with dolls in terms of their social development. Other research has shown that social processing and empathy skills are important determinants in childrenâs future emotional, academic, and social success.
Dr. Catherine Jones said: âThe study reinforces how it is important that that we acknowledge and value neurodiversity. This means recognising and valuing the diverse ways in which children’s brains work and approaching social development in a way that is inclusive and accommodating for all children, regardless of their neurodivergence. By embracing all ways that children choose to play, we can create a more inclusive and supportive environment for their development.â
Since the landmark publication of Piagetâs theory of cognitive development, the effects of play have been thought to be positive for kidsâ social skills and creativity, but this has never been scientifically evidenced at the brain level. This multi-year long-term study commissioned by Barbie is the first time that key Piaget theories on play have been scientifically evidenced via brain imaging and the first to use neuroimaging evidence with natural doll play, meaning there was no prescribed storyline to show how the brain is activated during doll play.
âWe are proud to know that when children, regardless of their neurodevelopmental profile, play with Barbie, their playtime may benefit their development,â said Michael Swaisland, Head EMEA of Insight and Analytics, Mattel. âAs Barbie continues to inspire the limitless potential in every child, we are delighted to know, through neuroscience, that playing with Barbie may encourage the development of social skills such as empathy in children, including those who display neurodivergent traits commonly associated with autism. We look forward to uncovering even more benefits of doll play through our long-term partnership with Cardiff University as we look to shine a light on the benefits the play pattern has towards development, that parents might not have been aware of.â
The results of this third year of research, titled âEmbracing Neurodiversity in Doll Play: Investigating Neural and Language Correlates of Doll Play in a Neurodiverse Sample,â were peer-reviewed and published in the European Journal of Neuroscience in September 2023 by Dr. Sarah Gerson and colleagues at Cardiff Universityâs Centre for Human Developmental Science, UK, as well as colleagues at Kingâs College London.
Parents and caregivers can visit barbie.com/benefits to learn more about the research and access resources.
* The study was commissioned by Barbie and was conducted with 57 children (27 boys and 22 girls) aged 4 to 8 years with varying levels of autistic traits. Traits were measured using the Autism Spectrum Quotient-Childrenâs Version (AQ-Child, Aueyung, et al., 2008)
2020 to 2022 was not a (few) good year (s) for my weight – and yes I am lumping them all together, because quite frankly, they sucked. I managed to gain 20kgs. I do not fit into any of my beloved jeans and have a double chin. I hate it enough to start getting back to myself this year.
Phew, I have to vent! When we had our youngest daughterâs party we only invited 5 kids. Most of the parents arrived within 15 minutes of the start time â except one. She arrived an hour lateâŠ
Not only did she arrive an hour late, she neglected to RSVP for her 2-year-old and a nanny!
When something like that happens once, you kind of understand, because with kids anything can happen.
Then, not even a month later we happen to all be invited to another party. The party had a scheduled start and end time on the invite. This woman once again arrived late. She arrived 15 minutes before the end of the party, brought the nanny and 2-year-old again. She didnât waste time to get her kids on the slip-n-slide while the rest of us were busy packing up.
Ok, so that is twiceâŠ
Then we all got invited to a third party (all in a span of 5 weeks) and she arrives the last half an hour at a venue where you have to be out of that party area based on your booking â and thatâs not even the worst part. She sent the nanny off to take the kids to the activity area and she grabbed a takeaway box and packed it to the brim. When the nanny got back, she instructed the nanny to pack a second takeaway box. Then she sat down and directly ate from the platter while there were plates right next to it. She even dipped a finger snack she had already bitten into, in the sauce!
I was mortified!
I will never invite her daughter to another party because of her motherâs tardiness and bad manners. You better believe that I am judging her because she doesnât have the excuse of she has to do everything herself, or that she had a work emergency, or that she canât afford to buy takeaways based on the cars they drive and a full-time nanny that goes everywhere and her not working… her behavior is just not OK.
Kids Party Etiquette for Parents
If your child has an older/younger sibling, ask the parents if it is OK to bring the child with when you RSVP as they have to cater for an extra child and pack a party pack. Never bring an additional guest unannounced
Take a gift on the day. Most parents donât expect you to spend hundreds on a gift, they just want to spoil their kid with a party where all their closest friends are
When you walk into the venue, greet the hosting parents and thank them for inviting you
Find the birthday boy/girl and wish them a happy birthday and let your child hand over the birthday gift
Arrive within a few minutes of the starting time and be mindful of the end time as shown on the invite as the venue may only have been booked for a specific timeslot
If there is an open âbarâ for drinks, be mindful of not going wild and ordering just because it is free
Never pack a takeaway unless the hosts explicitly offers you a takeaway
Donât eat directly from a communal platter, pack some snacks into the provided plates or a napkin draped in your hand
Never dip a handheld snack into a communal dipping sauce â especially if there is a tea spoon to let you scoop some out onto your plate
If there are toothpicks or forks or thongs to use with the food, please do use it!
When you are ready to leave, thank the parents for a great party and compliment them on the choice of venue, the cake or something
Offer to help clean up
When your kid gets invited to a party, you (as a parent) are one of the background characters. Your job is to get them to the party on time with a gift in hand, take them to the bathroom, chat to the other parents so the hosts have time to take photos with their kid and make sure you are ready to leave at the designated time.
Montecasino, the multi-award winning entertainment destination in Fourways Johannesburg, have teamed up with Kickstart Productions, the popular Durban based Theatre Company to present a fun filled family pantomime for the festive season, Sinbad The Sailor at the Teatro, Montecasino from 19 November to 23 December 2022.
It is a riotous romp over the Seven Seas, in the company of the famous sailor, Sinbad, and his madcap crew and family! With gloriously colourful sets and costumes that evoke the exotic mystery and magic of the Arabian Nights, and exciting music and dance, inspired by Bollywood, this is a unique, unforgettable pantomime experience for the entire family.
Kickstart Theatre Company is famous for their holiday pantomimes and this year is no different. The 16 strong cast features some of the cream of South Africaâs talent. Sinbad features newcomer Micah Stojakovic in the title role, Schoeman Smit as Dame Donna Kebab, Murray Todd as Long John Slither and Samantha Peo as Morgiana the Magnificent.
The delightful heroine of the piece is Princess Marina (Kiruna-Lind Devar) and the magical larger-than-life Genie of the Seven Seas is played by Yamikani Phiri with Lelo Ramasimong as the no-nonsense Ameena; Sandi Dlangalala as the deliciously vague Silly Billy Souvlaki; and Mthokozisi Zulu as the trusty pirate side-kick, Mustapha Kitkat. The ensemble is made up of Marang Khwene, Kutloano Rankoe, Hannah Rudnicki, Kyra Teague, Joshua Groenveld, Thokozani Jiyane, Lwazi Pinyana and Sabelo Radebe.
Written and directed by Steven Stead; designed by Greg King, with choreography by Evashnee Pillay, lighting by Denis Hutchinson,
Sinbad the Sailor is perfect year-end holiday entertainment for the entire family.
The Durban critics raved:
âSinbad The Sailor is a rollicking, delicious romp which has the audience in stitches or gasping in amazement.â – Caroline Smart
âGloriously over the top funâŠ. Sinbad is Panto-tastic!â â Estelle Sinkins, The Witness
âFor a whale of a time⊠Dive inâ â Billy Suter
WIN TICKETS
Do you want to go see the show this Saturday (19 November 2022). I have 2 sets of 2 tickets to give away. Let me know on this blog post who you will take to see the Sinbad the Sailor at Montecasino. Winner announced 10am on 18 November 2022 by random draw. T&Cs apply.
My kids are 4 and 6 this year â and theyâve seen their very first professional ballet already! I am so proud of myself that I am continuing the traditions my mom and I started since I moved to Joburg more than 2 decades ago.
We went to see Joburg Balletâs Cinderella and we sat in the front row! My kids were so excited and posed for many selfies in front of the stage while we waited for the performance to start…
I did spend a bundle on snacks (lesson learnt). I bought 2 mini Pringles, 4 (skinny) Cokes, 1 big Astro and 1 big Smartie pack for a cool R245.
Lexa was mesmerised by the graceful dancers gliding across the stage. Kitty was ‘wow-ing’ and clapping hands. They appreciated the story and the art… The step sisters definitely stole the show with their manly features and movements stood in stark contras to the petite Cinderella.
The second half little miss Kitty wanted to go home. She was crawling over my lap, trying to find a spot to sleep, whispering “pssspsspss home’ in my ear. The minute the lights came on and the curtain fell for the last time she was out of that theatre before 95%. We got into the elevator to take us down to level 10 (the lowest) parking area and drove out without having to wait in a queue.