The last few months I realised a few things:

  1. I can count my friends on less than 2 hands
  2. You cannot rely on religious people to be selfless
  3. People do not understand what it is to get the “infertile forever” verdict
  4. People definitely do not know how hard it is to find a surrogate else they would be sharing

The past few months have been hell. I could have done with at least more of my friends just dropping an email to say pretty much anything – just so I know that they actually cared. That didn’t happen and now I can seriously say that I have cut down on even having them on my Facebook list of friends.

You would think that if you asked help from a church (or a few of them) to just put the word out that there is someone that needs a surrogate that they will oblige. Wrong. Churches don’t care, Christians aren’t selfless and I will never set foot in one of these places.

If one more person tries to tell me that “God has a plan” or that maybe it is for the best I will not keep my cool. (Seriously, I heard these things from my friends as well – I wonder how these tactless bastards would feel if they were in my shoes?) I also do not want to hear that anyone will pray for me, because there isn’t anybody up there


Susann is a travel, parenting, beauty and lifestyle blogger in Johannesburg, South Africa.

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